Do you/have you ever cheat or cheated on a girlfriend or wife?

Wingspan · February 20, 2006, 11:32:49 AM

Quote from: Susquehanna Birder on February 20, 2006, 11:00:01 AM
Quote from: Wingspan on February 20, 2006, 08:26:12 AMmost women would disagree.

I'm happy for 'em. The problem is that the term "girlfriend" is a little to...er...broad.

my definition of girlfriend is someone who you are exclusively dating.

i've never cheated on anyone. but i did seriously considered at one point (the girlfriend before i started dating my now wife, and no i didnt consider cheating on my then current gf, with my now wife). i never went through with it, i broke up with her instead.

Zanshin · February 20, 2006, 11:44:43 AM

That's sort of what I did, too. I had been dating my now wife for a couple of years, but she starting becoming a pain in the ass and this other girl came along who was willing and able.

So, instead of cheating, I broke up with my girlfriend and started up with the new girl who had also just gotten out of a relationship and didn't want to get really serious. My now wife was shocked when she learned how quickly I picked up with someone else, and she realized that she'd been a pain in the ass. After a month, my now wife had a new attitude and wanted to get back together. So, I put out some ground rules, got back together...and here we are happy and healthy the better part of 15 years later.

Going with that other girl was the best thing that could have happened for my marriage

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EJ72 · February 20, 2006, 03:10:37 PM

Never have, although the opportunity was there in my second marriage, and never will. I'll never be the one that someone is cheating with, either. I was with one woman that I had been seeing for about a month back in the early 90's. Found out she was married, and dropped her like she was made of radioactive material. Good thing, too. She turned out to be something of a strange bird with serious self esteem and emotional issues.

rjs246 · February 20, 2006, 03:12:19 PM

Marriages don't break up on account of infidelity. It's just a symptom that something else is wrong.

PoopyfaceMcGee · February 20, 2006, 03:19:20 PM

Quote from: rjs246 on February 20, 2006, 03:12:19 PM
Marriages don't break up on account of infidelity. It's just a symptom that something else is wrong.

"Yeah, well... that symptom is farging my wife!"

When Harry Met Sally.

rjs246 · February 20, 2006, 04:35:19 PM

BTW, anyone who hasn't had the opportunity to cheat on their significant other has to be hideously unattractive. Chicks flock to a man in a relationship like flies to a fresh shtein-patty.

Sgt PSN · February 20, 2006, 04:38:52 PM

Quote from: rjs246 on February 20, 2006, 04:35:19 PM
BTW, anyone who hasn't had the opportunity to cheat on their significant other has to be hideously unattractive. Chicks flock to a man in a relationship like flies to a fresh shtein-patty.

This man speaketh the truth. When I was married I had more women hitting on me than I ever had both before and after.

rjs246 · February 20, 2006, 04:40:12 PM

Exactly, and this is Sarge we're talking about. You know he wasn't wooing them with his stellar wit and winning personality.

Sgt PSN · February 20, 2006, 04:41:33 PM

Quote from: rjs246 on February 20, 2006, 04:40:12 PM
Exactly, and this is Sarge we're talking about. You know he wasn't wooing them with his stellar wit and winning personality.

Ok, that's enough truth speaking.

rjs246 · February 20, 2006, 04:42:57 PM

That made me laugh.

LBIggle · February 20, 2006, 07:40:07 PM

as scummy as cheating is, ratting out your friend is infinitely more scummy. bros before hoes. suck it up and deal with it, it's his life let him do what he wants with it. don't be a narc.

if it really bothers you that much, lay out some ground rules about it with your friend.

PhillyPhanInDC · February 20, 2006, 07:52:38 PM

Quote from: L-ong-B-each-I-ggle on February 20, 2006, 07:40:07 PM
as scummy as cheating is, ratting out your friend is infinitely more scummy. bros before hoes. suck it up and deal with it, it's his life let him do what he wants with it. don't be a narc.

if it really bothers you that much, lay out some ground rules about it with your friend.

Meh, it depends. Is this chick like, super, insane hottie type good looking? If she is so hot that you may get one or two more chances in your life to throw a bone at the kind of hottness, do the aforementioned "after she finds out pissed off sex". You'll get more friends, but nailing a super hot chick is/can be an oppurtunity that come along only so often.

Another idea, if you do go that route, video tape it and send a copy to your by then former friend. He may forgive you based on the awesomeness of it. More than likely, he'll just kill you.*

*This post is not meant to taken seriously.

Geowhizzer · February 20, 2006, 07:53:35 PM

Quote from: L-ong-B-each-I-ggle on February 20, 2006, 07:40:07 PM
as scummy as cheating is, ratting out your friend is infinitely more scummy. bros before hoes. suck it up and deal with it, it's his life let him do what he wants with it. don't be a narc.

if it really bothers you that much, lay out some ground rules about it with your friend.

So, you're saying that "betraying" a friend by telling his wife of infidelity is worse than the husband's betrayal of his wedding vows?

Can't say I agree with that.

rjs246 · February 20, 2006, 07:55:04 PM

QuoteYou'll get more friends, but nailing a super hot chick is/can be an oppurtunity that come along only so often.

This is hands down the worst advice ever. There are always hot chicks, and the magic of being a dude is that as you get older, you get better looking in the eyes of hot chicks. So you'll always have a shot at nailing superhot hotties.

Friends are far harder to come by. If you would sacrifice a friendship just to bone a chick that you think is hot, you're a farging idiot.

Sgt PSN · February 20, 2006, 08:00:26 PM

Quote from: Geowhizzer on February 20, 2006, 07:53:35 PM
Quote from: L-ong-B-each-I-ggle on February 20, 2006, 07:40:07 PM
as scummy as cheating is, ratting out your friend is infinitely more scummy. bros before hoes. suck it up and deal with it, it's his life let him do what he wants with it. don't be a narc.

if it really bothers you that much, lay out some ground rules about it with your friend.

So, you're saying that "betraying" a friend by telling his wife of infidelity is worse than the husband's betrayal of his wedding vows?

Can't say I agree with that.

rjs, while I agree with you in principle, the subject(s) of this thread aren't married so it really doesn't apply.