Do you/have you ever cheat or cheated on a girlfriend or wife?

The BIGSTUD · February 20, 2006, 12:12:24 AM

Out of all my closest friends, I think I'm the only one who has never cheated on a girlfriend. I'm not married yet, but I'd never cheat on my wife when I am married. I just think it's nasty thing to do. But I have friends including one now, who has a steady girlfriend and cheats on her on a regular basis. It's a shame too because she's real nice and she'd be devastated if she found out. We are pretty good friends so it annoys me a little, but I'd never tell her because I don't interfere with other people's business. On top of that I'd have to rat out a friend of mine.

So what boat are you in? Are you a loyalist or do you care about the fun and sleep around on your girlfriend or wife?

MDS · February 20, 2006, 12:17:47 AM

If I were you, I would tell my friend he has to cut off the cheating or else go tell. I may an icehole, but I would never cheat and think anyone who does is scum.

The BIGSTUD · February 20, 2006, 12:23:20 AM

You'd think it would be entertainment if I told her, but it wouldn't. She'd have a total breakdown if she found out.

MDS · February 20, 2006, 12:34:04 AM

Well that won't be your problem. Plus if shes hot, you can bait her into pissed off get back at him sex. Sure that'll eventually ruin the friendship, but it was going downhill anyway.

The BIGSTUD · February 20, 2006, 12:53:27 AM

My friendship with him isn't going downhill. I don't like him any less for doing what he's doing. I just think it's wrong because she's a nice girl and I know her personally, and she's always been very nice to me whenever we hung out.

I used to have a different outlook on this issue, but as I've gotten older I've learned to respect women a heck of a lot more than I did 5 years ago. I've never mistreated women, but when I was in my teens I probably would've cheated if the opportunity presented itself. Although it didn't, so I never have. Right now I wouldn't even if it did present itself.

Sgt PSN · February 20, 2006, 01:34:15 AM

I cheated on a girlfriend one time back in highschool and that's it. Even when I was married I never cheated even though I had several opportunities not to mention that I was completely unhappy as well.

Now I don't have to worry about cheatiing because I don't keep a "steady" girlfriend. I just date who I want, when I want. Good times.

Susquehanna Birder · February 20, 2006, 07:10:21 AM

It's my personal view that a "girlfriend" doesn't necessarily imply monogamy. If you're engaged or married, it's another story.

PoopyfaceMcGee · February 20, 2006, 07:30:52 AM

Quote from: MDS on February 20, 2006, 12:17:47 AM
If I were you, I would tell my friend he has to cut off the cheating or else go tell. I may an icehole, but I would never cheat and think anyone who does is scum.

I agree with you, but your opinion on this matter means nothing until you do the following:

1. Actually get a girlfriend. Someone who's willing to make out with you and do some heavy petting.
2. Then find ANOTHER girl that actually wants to get down with you.

So, you won't be able to speak from experience for quite some time.

Wingspan · February 20, 2006, 08:26:12 AM

Quote from: Susquehanna Birder on February 20, 2006, 07:10:21 AM
It's my personal view that a "girlfriend" doesn't necessarily imply monogamy. If you're engaged or married, it's another story.

most women would disagree.

and i take that as your answer to the question above as a "yes"

Geowhizzer · February 20, 2006, 08:28:19 AM

I'm a loyalist. Have been for dang near 17 years (13 marriage, 4 dating/engaged).

Man, I'm getting old.

Diomedes · February 20, 2006, 08:34:28 AM

Quote from: Philly Forever on February 20, 2006, 12:53:27 AM
My friendship with him isn't going downhill.

Is it possible that your relationship with your friend is being affected by his behavior? Seems to me, his running around has put you in the lousy position of having to lie (at least by ommission) to another friend (the girl.) Do you resent him for making you take part in decieving this chick? If so, time to tell him as much.

It's obviously on your brain enough to prompt you into the ridiculous action of sharing the situation with a bunch of football message board losers.

Regarding cheating myself, I have never cheated (not counting high school crap). I figgered out early on that if you really want to be consumed by jealosy and suspicion regarding what your woman is doing, the best way is to cheat on her. Then you're doomed to suspect her, and you've given her good reason. Best to stay the hell away from it. If you are VERY clear with the chick that you don't want to stay monogomous, and she's cool with it, that's another story. But a word to the wise: almost NO women are cool with it. Even the ones who think they are.

SunMo · February 20, 2006, 08:42:10 AM

i was with a married woman, but i was single at the time.

Zanshin · February 20, 2006, 10:36:26 AM

I've never done it; never would. More than anything, I don't feel the need to create that kind of drama and it certainly wouldn't be worth it. I had a friend I lived with who cheated on his longtime girlfriend contantly, and I liked them both. That was a lousy spot to be in. I was still friends with the guy, but I always resented the spot he put me in when those times rolled in.

Susquehanna Birder · February 20, 2006, 11:00:01 AM

Quote from: Wingspan on February 20, 2006, 08:26:12 AMmost women would disagree.

I'm happy for 'em. The problem is that the term "girlfriend" is a little to...er...broad.

Quoteand i take that as your answer to the question above as a "yes"

You'd be taking incorrectly, then.

Feva · February 20, 2006, 11:15:11 AM

You tell me. I'm married now and have never cheated on my wife... never will.

But before I met and got serious with her, I dated... a lot.

There were girls who I'd go out with in HS and college, some have sex with and all that, but it wasn't necessarily monogamous. There are very few women I've ever called my "girlfriend" and those women I have been faithful to. It's just that it had to get to that point though. I had to get to that point of caring for them that much to pass on another opportunity from another woman if it came along.