the random musings not worthy of new thread thread

[DH]

Would you rather they didn't come at all?

yes

[ice grillin you]

thats some OG quoting right there

[lurking wierdo]

Would you rather they didn't come at all?

yes

Then why invite them in the first place? Or, like I said, why not just get separate checks?

[DH]

i dont know how to quote the regular way anymore and i dont feel like finding out - i figured youd like that..

why did i invite him? because he is considered "family" and if he wasn't, he would have been the only one left out..i dont understand your seperate check comment, but you dont need to explain

[lurking wierdo]

The connotation here is that the gift wasn't enough to cover the expense. Not necessarily by what you posted, but by others.

[Sgt PSN]

i dont know how to quote the regular way anymore and i dont feel like finding out

Hit the Quote button in the far right corner of every post.

[Hawk]

It's a bad economy? 36 dollars as a wedding gift is a complete joke for a couple.  Those plates probably cost DH about 75 a piece, so they didn't even cover half of one plate.

[LBIggle]

while i'm not saying 36 bucks would be acceptable as a wedding gift.. don't have a big expensive wedding if your planning on passing the cost onto people you invited to enjoy the day.  wish lists or whatever their called are ridiculous and materialistic as well.  its supposed to be a day for two people blah blah blah... and instead its a materialistic charade that's held in a church in which its a minor miracle if those people even attend church regularly.

[Sgt PSN]

I gotta be honest....bitching about the value of wedding gifts seems pretty lame to me.  Invite people to your wedding because you want them to be present for a special occasion, not because you want to up your gift total.  I waited tables for weddings in high school and these were exceptionally expensive weddings.....main liner snobs. 

When I first started I'd work a couple tables furthest from the head table and I'd chat it up with everyone and most of these people barely had any relationship with the bride or groom.  They were long lost childhood friends, distant cousins, co-workers and business associates.  Why were these people even there?  I couldn't even begin to count the number of times I had people tell me that they didn't even really want to be there but didn't want to turn down the invite either.  Some said they were there just for the free food and drinks.  I also overheard several brides and grooms talking by the gift table and complaining about the lack of gifts and making comments like "If I knew this was all the gifts we would receive, I wouldn't have invited so many people." and things of that nature. 

Seems especially selfish to invite someone to your wedding when you have little/no relationship with them but expect them to shell out $$ for an expensive gift.   

[DH]

i didnt have a big expensive wedding to get gifts or money, but i expect to get the same treatment from people that i give to them. im a good tipper, a good gifter, and i expect the same in return. naive? perhaps, but thats the way i look at it and you can go straight to hell if you dont like it.

[Sgt PSN]

You raise a point that I hadn't considered......this 2nd cousin of yours that gave you a lousy/cheap gift.....did you previously attend his/her wedding and give them a nice gift?  Because if that's the case, then it's a little more understandable that you'd be annoyed if they didn't return the favor. 

[DH]

you got it..not only that, but i had to dvr an eagles (road) game and stay away from anyone who had access to scores and the like..not a fun day at all

[Sgt PSN]

They got married on a Sunday?  Those sons of bitches! 

[PhillyGirl]

One of my farging bridesmaids pouted through the whole wedding photo session, left early with her fiance and didn't give us a gift.

Bitch.

[Sgt PSN]

I'd pout too if I had to crouch down during the photo session just so the bride could be "tallest."