As I mentioned, Mrs. Yeti and I just celebrated our tenth year anniversary. It took me a while to work out some of the bugs so as a wedding present to Wingspan I thought I would post some tips on how we survived this long. That way maybe he won't have to figure out these things by trial and error like the rest of us. I also want to see what other married people do so I can incorporate it into my list of tricks.
I found the biggest tip is when we have a difference of opinion and I know I am right, I never insist that she is wrong. I tell her what I know, I hear her out and then I say "You might be right, I've been wrong before."
Like a day later she checks it out and comes back and says "You were right about that thing we were talking about." And I down play it like "Really?"
When we first got married I would go on and on trying to prove that I was right and she was wrong and it just frustrated both of us. And she NEVER came back and said I was right back then. And if I find out she was right I do the same thing.
But she rubs it in a little.
If you have something bugging you, don't hold it in. If you do, it festers and then one day, for no apparent reason, you just come out with it all and your spouse will have no clue wtf is going on and where it all came from. If you talk about it when it happens, its SO, SO, SO much better.
im not married but advice like this is relavent to an relationship. my girl is always right, at least she thinks so and its sooo annoying. its hard not to be a fleshpop sometimes. patience is key for sure. its hard not to let your emotions take over. :boom
Divorce saved my marriage.
Quote from: mussa on August 14, 2005, 07:25:12 PM
its hard not to let your emotions take over. :boom
Escpecially when you're clearly imbalanced to start with.
i know it sounds corny, but we never go to bed angry at eachother, and with the baby we never raise our voices in front of him, no matter what is going on. oh, and lots of vodka to keep me calm.
Quote from: T_Section224 on August 15, 2005, 07:59:43 AM
i know it sounds corny, but we never go to bed angry at eachother
:yay
Don't get caught staring down the bridesmaids...
Laugh...a lot. And lots of sex.... Hopefully not at the same time.
Quote from: General_Failure on August 14, 2005, 10:02:13 PM
Quote from: mussa on August 14, 2005, 07:25:12 PM
its hard not to let your emotions take over. :boom
Escpecially when you're clearly imbalanced to start with.
thats right :yay
Share a love of sports :yay On our honeymoon one couple we met who had been married for 35years said to make sure that you get out at least one night per month with just you two. And to make sure that you get one trip away per year. If you have kids just forget about them and be selfish.
Always put the toilet seat down. Buy flowers for no reason. Always give her the big half when you split something.
I've never been married...but I'm assuming don't farg her sister is good advice. I don't know.
Quote from: hbionic on August 15, 2005, 04:29:41 PM
I've never been married...but I'm assuming don't farg her sister is good advice. I don't know.
Or brother, in your case.
Quote from: PhillyGirl on August 15, 2005, 04:34:08 PMOr brother, in your case.
Or Golden Retriever in your case.